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It\u2019s really not a great time to be an extrovert at the moment. Many people out there are struggling with these new rules about social isolation. People are regularly posting on social media about how it\u2019s driving them crazy, or angry, and how much this new normal really sucks. But what many fail to realise is that there are some who have been forced to deal with unintended social isolation long before the existence of COVID.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For those like me; who live with a progressive, physical condition; isolation has been a part of our lives for sometime, and will continue to be a part of our lives long after the rest of the world has forgotten about what they had to do to survive this pandemic. For most, once this is over, and social gathering restrictions are relaxed around the world, they can go back to their normal routine of going to work and then going out – eating, dancing, socialising, partying, whatever they want to do. For me, it\u2019s not that simple.<\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

While I am able to do some of those things, sometimes, there are many more logistical issues to consider, and those issues are regularly changing due to the progressive nature of my condition. It\u2019s like playing a board game, and every time you finally figure out the rules, the rules completely change and you have to go back to square one. Sometimes, these issues will become too overwhelming, and then despite my desire to go out and be social, I won\u2019t be able to. Yes, technically it\u2019s a choice for me not to go, but it doesn\u2019t feel like a choice at the time. Also, sometimes it\u2019s worse, and the pain and exhaustion is too much that you can\u2019t face going. Also, sadly, sometimes it isn\u2019t a choice and you are physically unable to do what all your friends are doing, but you don\u2019t want to stop them as you know they love doing it and you used to love it too. These are some incredibly emotional and disheartening conversations to have with yourself. On top of all this, thanks to FOP, I have more limited energy nowadays and have to prioritise conserving that energy for my job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As a result, I’ve needed to learn some coping mechanisms. And I thought that some of these mechanisms might be useful to others, as we adapt to these unusual times with everyone isolated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Do things that bring you joy – even if it\u2019s small – and find a creative outlet. Every couple of days, I like to pamper myself with a nice face mask, pop on a guilty pleasure TV show and relax. Kind of like my version of meditation. Find yours. I\u2019ve heard of people at the moment starting to bake or cook, or pick their paintbrush back up, for the first time in ages. I\u2019ve heard of some starting to learn knitting or a new language; I even have a friend who\u2019s started DJing. Clothes are still one of my creative outlets, but that has become less important as nowadays I go from daytime pyjamas to nighttime pyjamas almost every day. But I can still get a bit dressed up sometimes, like when I put on some of my usual clothes to have a Skype catch up with friends. I didn\u2019t have to, and they probably didn\u2019t notice, but I did it for myself. It brought some semblance of normalcy and joy for me. The point is, whatever you think would work for you, give it a go. And if you don\u2019t have one already, try something new. It looks like we\u2019ll be living like this for awhile, so try out as many new things as you can until you find your \u2018thing\u2019!<\/li>
  2. While it certainly can\u2019t replace actual, in-person contact with other people, there are more options now than ever before to help you reach out to people and stay in touch with friends, colleagues and loved ones. With Facebook, Instagram, Skype, FaceTime, Zoom, and any other number of mediums to do so, don\u2019t forget to maintain your relationships. Also, if you do live with someone, be kind to them as you\u2019ll probably be stuck together in social isolation for awhile. For me, this is giving my sister a small glimpse into my struggles. Also, I know some of what she\u2019s struggling with adapting to this new norm, as I had to adapt the same way long ago. This gives me more empathy when she\u2019s having a bad day. If you and your partner\/friend\/roommate are both new to this, remember that you\u2019re both facing some of the same struggles. Be quick to forgive each other if you hit a road bump, try not to take it out on them if you\u2019re having a bad day (as chances are they might be too), and don\u2019t forget to make time to spend together. Like over this past weekend, when my sister and I spent ages playing games on the Wii together (things that make you both laugh are encouraged in this instance!).<\/li>
  3. Finally, I read a post the other day that really resonated with me. Staying positive isn\u2019t about being outwardly happy all the time. That would be a miracle for anyone! But don\u2019t lose hope that better days are coming. I\u2019ve found my hope wavering of late, because it has been just so much to deal with, with my physical disability continuing its relentless claim over my independence and taking so much from me the last few years. But I haven\u2019t given up yet. Hope can be a tiny little ray or, for some people it may come more easily. However much you have, hold onto it dearly. There is still magic and beauty left in the world, and better days will come soon enough. Be patient.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Hopefully you find some of these tips helpful! Don’t hesitate to reach out.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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